Can You Travel…But Not?

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What do you love most about travel? I love the feeling of freedom in my day-to-day routine, freedom from stresses, and largely freedom from stress! Plus, the adventure of seeing new sights, meeting new people, and immersing myself in another culture.

So how do you get that without actually travel? My favorite way is to read a excellent book. It can be an old favorite, or a new adventure about Raccoons Pooping In A Swimming Pool, but it has to pull me right in and keep me so snuggly that I can not even think about anything else! My entire body says,”Aaahh.” Then I get excited about what’s going to happen next. The atmosphere and adventure of another time and place can work its magic to make me feel I’ve left my home and flown off to a terrific new experience.

My latest favorite book for that type of”travel without travel” is Adventures of a World-Traveling Scientist by Stanley Randolf. Imagine discovering secrets of cultures that are odd, bizarre animal species, new perspectives (such as”after your Spirit Voice”), and terrifying minutes just around the corner! From China to Rarotonga, I felt very-well-traveled, like an aristocrat from earlier lore.

Then there is foreign film with subtitles in your first language. You may end up thinking differently about life after watching something that takes place in another land. However, I still prefer the books!

Another way to travel without travel is through finding new cultures right at home! Or nearby, if you can get to a bigger city. Most cities have at least one ethnic restaurant that will not only function new-to-you food, but will delight you with a special atmosphere or art and music, and perhaps even amusement native to the owner’s original culture.

Still, books are the best to me, because I don’t need to consume the unfamiliar cuisine when it sounds really awful, but I can pretend I am still open to it. With a fantastic imagination, books can make you fly away to lands unknown with a joyful freedom of soul and heart!

Imagine yourself in which you want to be. The Taj Majal? Wherever you to go, if you read about it, you’ll have a better sense of being there than with movie, though that will help. Simply think about not just how it would look to you, but how it would smell, sound, feel emotionally, and even feel when your feet hit the sand, or your hand touches a very old rock. It can become very real and truly become a”mini-vacation.”

 

Only One Way to Handle Disappointment

Boy Child Sad Alone Sit Sitting On Jacket

Parent help is among the highlights of my week. I love going into my son’s class to aid his teacher and other school staff. I love working in a different school environment as a chaplain. And I loved helping in my daughters’ courses when they were children too.

It strikes me, the more I am involved in school environments, just how holistic education is. It’s not just about the academic work or the’formative’ years. There is very much a social dimension to instruction that carries through beyond college, even, hesitant as I say this, into life as a 50-year-old. We are always learning.

I was reminded of this as I saw my child interact in a class session on the mat. I saw myself in his disappointment.

‘It’s what it is, son. Acknowledge it and proceed.’

That’s what I felt I heard God say to my soul. It was both a personal Word from my God to me, His child, in my disappointments, and from me to my son, as I agreed fully with the fact God showed me in my own disappointment.

Life is littered with disappointment. And we always feel like we’ve been hard-done-by. If we’re not careful disappointment grows legs and runs full tilt toward bitterness and headlong to the eventual’prize’ of bitterness.

As a five-year-old the disappointment seems obvious on the face, a heart that is momentarily rejected, but they look quickly to get over it. But on a fifty-year-old that disappointment is often concealed in an’Oh, I’ll be fine… it’s really fine…’ when sometimes my spirit is actually saying,’Gee, that hurt!’ And,’If I’m honest, I’m stunned!’

The point is disappointment stings. We do not expect to not get our way. And it strengthens feelings of injustice (‘it’s not fair!’) Or residual feelings of inadequacy (‘these things always happen to me’, and’why am I always the goal?’) Or one of a range of other not-so-good feelings and attributions.

Two things we can do about disappointment: 1) acknowledge it happened; that we felt the sting of disappointment, and that that is okay, without judging it, and 2) proceed. That’s right, we just move on. We don’t offer the disappointment that communicates any more attention than it warrants.

I didn’t enjoy it when it happened, but I am not going to let it define me.

Tough as it is, when disappointment happens, it’s better to acknowledge it hurts, take courage to feel it, understand what you can, then let go and proceed. You canĀ click for more info on how to move on from disappointment.